Erik Jongbloed

Ask your psychologist what to do about panic attacks or night terrors - you’ll get no further than the advice to “minimize stress” and perhaps medication. This client tells a story of another solution - a permanent one - we found together. From struggling with panic attacks and night terrors all his…

It all started when she noticed me biting her head off after she’d wake me up. Even though she tried to get me out of bed in the nicest, sweetest way - I’d hold a grudge until noon! It had become a pattern. So we decided to do shadow work to see if we could fix this. The first session (documented he…

A client asked me this yesterday and here's my contemplated answer. Is it possible to find the root cause/fix a coping mechanism such as smoking or drinking too much coffee, by resisting it and feeling into the sensations that arise? Correct me if I am wrong, I believe your hypothesis is that any ad…

This blew my mind. Jung states that "falling in love", strong, obsessive infatuation, is actually a person projecting their inner anima or animus, whichever they lack connection with, onto another person. They are merely looking for a lost part of themselves, through the person they are falling in l…

Perhaps you've realised that self-help books which teach you a better mindset, don't always stick, or sometimes the backlashes are immense. And it can seem like subconsciously, part of you wants to fail, or stay in that sabotaging state. Reality is more positive than that. This mechanism (self sabot…

I don’t often consult astrology, but when I do… the result is unsettling. Let me backtrack. I’m in my pyjamas on my friend M’s couch, absorbed in the act of transporting my morning coffee into my sleepy face. She’s dressed in colourful robes, raving and ranting as she paces about the room. There’s …

Recently someone asked me how they could be less logical with their partner, and instead be more emotionally expressive. If you are as well on the less expressive side, you may know the pain of being considered distant or uninterested when you are actually just being yourself. Processing the life on…

Recently, a nutritional therapist and fellow coach made these observations, which I found very interesting, and triggered me to write this: Some ADHD clients really benefit from nutrition therapy, and some do not. Some are in the camp that says ADHD is a disorder that can (or can not) be healed, and…